Thursday, January 31, 2013

F is for Friendship

I remember when Harmon was small and just barely turning one I would be working from home and he would watch Sesame Street. There would be a letter for the day and a simple message.



Friendship was a common theme and it was always simple. We are everyone's friend. We all play together and love one another. It is simple and happy. Unfortunately that is not what life is like and my Harmon is experiencing it.

This weekend I noticed him bullying his brother. This is not Harmon at all and so I went to him and we talked. As I saw the tears in his eyes well up as he told me one of his friends decided not to like him anymore my heart broke for him. I tried to explain that sometimes people are this way. It is life. That it is his job to be kind to everyone no matter what and let them decide if they are going to be kind back. He agreed but he was still sad.


Yesterday he came back to me and told me today it was another boy who had decided today to not be his friend. All I could do was sympathize with him and reinforce the need to be kind. I couldn't explain it away. It sucks that people choose not be nice at times. Heaven knows as a kid I sometimes would be not nice to my peers and I often sat in Harm's shoes. Now as an adult it breaks my heart to see Harm in this situation. But this is life and all I can do is be there for him.

2 comments:

  1. How sad for him! How my heart breaks for you and him. Keith told me today about a boy who told him if he didn't leave the room he would punch Keith in the stomach. Seriously, kids are so so mean! I hope the kids are nicer to Harmon soon.

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  2. I hear "your not my friend" being yelled by my son's classmates at any little indescretion...and then they are best friends again 30 seconds later...crazy playground jungle!

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Thursday, January 31, 2013

F is for Friendship

I remember when Harmon was small and just barely turning one I would be working from home and he would watch Sesame Street. There would be a letter for the day and a simple message.



Friendship was a common theme and it was always simple. We are everyone's friend. We all play together and love one another. It is simple and happy. Unfortunately that is not what life is like and my Harmon is experiencing it.

This weekend I noticed him bullying his brother. This is not Harmon at all and so I went to him and we talked. As I saw the tears in his eyes well up as he told me one of his friends decided not to like him anymore my heart broke for him. I tried to explain that sometimes people are this way. It is life. That it is his job to be kind to everyone no matter what and let them decide if they are going to be kind back. He agreed but he was still sad.


Yesterday he came back to me and told me today it was another boy who had decided today to not be his friend. All I could do was sympathize with him and reinforce the need to be kind. I couldn't explain it away. It sucks that people choose not be nice at times. Heaven knows as a kid I sometimes would be not nice to my peers and I often sat in Harm's shoes. Now as an adult it breaks my heart to see Harm in this situation. But this is life and all I can do is be there for him.

2 comments:

  1. How sad for him! How my heart breaks for you and him. Keith told me today about a boy who told him if he didn't leave the room he would punch Keith in the stomach. Seriously, kids are so so mean! I hope the kids are nicer to Harmon soon.

    ReplyDelete
  2. I hear "your not my friend" being yelled by my son's classmates at any little indescretion...and then they are best friends again 30 seconds later...crazy playground jungle!

    ReplyDelete