Rachel just fully potty trained this month. She decided on her own and it was great. The hard part is that everyone is obsessed with gender. It started when Cally asked me about why he didn't have earrings. I explained boys had pee pees and girls had earrings. He was cool with that b/c like a lot a lot of guys he loves his pee pee. Problem is when Rach and I would hang out potty training he would point to her and explain how she didn't have a pee pee. So that started her with an obsession on male and female plumbing. She had to start asking everyone do you have a "wee wee" or a "pee pee". I mean everyone: Miriam, her teachers at church, her male social worker, etc. The best part is that when people respond shyly she drops her pants and explains boys have pee pees and I have a wee wee. Hopefully she drops this habit before middle school!
Harmon is ever the cool little man he had always been. He amazes me his amount of empathy. Especially considering many people think kids on the spectrum are not cuddly. Such a myth!!! He always wants to hug, kiss, and show me extra love when need it the most. Anyhow, we do have a problem teaching him that pets and siblings are not toys. He can be rough but he is never mean! He loves to piggy back Cally (which is an issue size wise) and tosses Rachel into the air when they practice swing dancing. The biggest problem is Henry the kitten. He thinks that is his stuffed animal. That cat's patience is amazing!!! He never minds it. Tonight Harmon put Henry in his back pack and wanted to take him to SAMs Club. That was a problem. Henry was a great sport and Harm made a promise to not put living creatures in his back pack ;).
Cally is Cally. He is just one easy going cool dude. Rachel and Harmon are very intense Cally is all about chilling. His love is music and he loves these toys called thing-a-mi-jigs that sing. He sings with them. When he is not singing though he loves to talk, to everything and anyone. His toys, people at stores, himself, the wall, etc. the issue is he won't make certain sounds though including F's, Z's, R's, Th's, and S's. It gives him the best weirdest cutest dialect ever. He talks with such enthusiasm but if you don't speak Cally, you might be very confused. For example when you ask him to buzz like a bee he goes "nerrrhhhh..." with a big deep throaty sound. I'm so happy I understand him because he says the funniest things. For example I asked him tonight if he was going to build houses like daddy. He replied, "I will build nicer houses than daddy! I will build castles like the beast! He than said "Beast and I look the same we wear ponytails!!!!". He than once more proceeded to roar: AARGH! as humanly loud as possible and than said happily "goodbye" and ran off. It was awesome!
This has been one of the hardest times in my life but it is my kids and husband that keep my spirits up! Being a mom is the hardest thing I've ever done but it is my greatest treasure. My kids are wonderful! They brighten me everyday. It has been hard being away in the hospital these last few times and when I'm sick and just have to lay down in the room at night by myself. I miss perhaps more than they miss me :p. I told the neurologist yesterday that we have to fix this pain. I can't live my life in half and I don't want to miss my time with these guys!
One last note. Thank you to all my dear friends who have been helping us. I can on Facebook we could use a home cooked meal and there is more friends volunteering than there were nights this week. I could not keep everything together without such support! Miriam has been in the trenches just showing these kids nonstop love when I just can't be there. Chris sits and edits my work for grammar and is just filling in blanks lately. This week he made a renewed effort in our home and in our marriage. It has been so hard but we have laughed more these last few days than we have in years. Family, friends, and my internet pals really have been supportive. The challenges are big but I'm not alone and I'm so grateful for that.
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