It is hard to believe that July will mark 3 yrs since we faced some major life changes. Harmon had just been born and the economy in Las Vegas NV was tanking. Chris was in construction where entire divisions were being dissolved and I was with the University who was also cutting jobs. Our best option was to try moving here to Las Cruces and giving Chris a chance to start this business w/his brothers and fulfill a dream. It meant building everything from scratch. I had to learn marketing better working full time plus, while caring for Harmon. Chris felt even more pressure to succeed. He didn't want to let us down (or himself). We worked so closely those days... sometimes late into the night well after Harmon had gone to bed. It was really fun. I forgot how close we were in those days. We were really united (although we sometimes were really sick of each other).
Now the company is doing well and is very big. The twins came and I pulled back a bit. Things are easier. I have a nanny, Chris has minions at work, life is good... but it was missing something. We no longer really ever had to work together anymore and it has made us drift away a little.
Lately we have been working together again during the day on a project. It has been giving us a new respect for each other and bringing us closer. I think both of us understand better what the other goes through. I marvel at how he balances so much and he loves getting my feedback on everything (the one nice thing about working with your spouse is that it is the one co-worker you can truly share any opinion with). We have had time to think about the future and what we want.
Last weekend Chris mentioned he wanted more meaningful dates so after the kids got settled at Gualita's last Saturday we went to the El Paso Museum of Art and saw their special exhibit "Monet to Matisse" where I was able to share with him my love of Impressionism (they had an original Degas even... my favorite). Afterwards he took me to a lovely restaurant, Cafe Central where we sat and didn't talk about work. It was so much fun. We laughed. We debated. We reconnected.
Last Saturday I felt that cheesy beat in my heart like I did back in the day when we were dating. Today we laughed so hard while driving to the Tile store. One of our favorite songs right now is by the Script. The chorus says:
Drinking old cheap bottles of wine
Saying things we haven't for a while, a while yeah
We're smiling but we're close to tears
Even after all these years
We just now got the feeling that we're meeting for the first time...
I don't think I want to go back to the days where we were worried about if we would have steady income coming again but we are realizing we do need to reconnect more like we did in those days. We may not be drinking wine but we are trying to fall in love a little more all over again.